Self-esteem beats perfection
| Jean de La Rochebrochard | Sep 28, 2020 | 12 | 4 |
This is a short request for startups :)
I find disappointing the cognitive hooks of applications around sport, nutrition, and more generally anything around learning and training. They allow us to define milestones, to progress step by step, to share our journey with others, but are they really grounded to the reality of our life ? Maybe yours, but not mine.
Expectations create pressure.
Routines are subject to external events.
Constraints can be painful at times.
Habits require a constant effort of discipline and consistence.
Perfection is the enemy of the good. And even though good isn’t good enough sometimes, our attempts to reach perfection are actually deteriorating our self-esteem and consequently our ability to be happy.
It’s still a reflection in progress, but I would love to see more applications built around the honourable aspects of our self-esteem with a system of records that takes failures into account in a moderate way.
It’s not a fatality to sometimes let go and it’s through failures that we learn. Those two aspects are part of our growth journey.
With Kima Ventures, we are engaging with more and more entrepreneurs taking those aspects into account with purpose and authenticity and would love to see more of them :)
| 12 | 4 |
Hi Jean,
I understand your point regarding apps that help us set goals and track progress. However, what if the problem is that we set too high expectations for us making the discipline and habit forming very challenging and negative for self esteem?
And what if it was more a behavior design issue? 😊
If you don’t know him yet, I invite you to discover the work of BJ Fogg, behavior design lab director at Stanford. One of his methods is called « tiny habits ». The aim is to start the smallest as possible so that it is very easy to perform. Which means that the discipline is not an issue at all and also he suggests to celebrate every time a habit is done which is good for self-esteem... 😁👌
Here is his TED conference where he exposed his method :
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AdKUJxjn-R8
Open to discuss further this subject which I’m passionate about! 😃 Indeed, with a friend, as a side project, we are currently designing an app for habit forming...
Fabrice Grinda is the smartest of us all... and when he explains, with tremendous speech skills, how to build an MVP for less than 20k$, we don't want him to bring a golf/partnership/handicap/scoring app as an example ! Come on Fabrice...
The web can bring so much more to sports !
Excellent episode by the way : https://youtu.be/2VXJNBt_grk